In Dedication to Sue

The daffodils are in full bloom and the tulips are starting to make their appearance.  I was thinking of Sue this weekend as her birthday came and went, and I figured it was high time I submitted something to the blog.  Sue played an integral role in several chapters of my life.  The first chapter was as a junior in high school and a prospective student to Willamette.  I felt very special to have been asked to interview with WU - I was the only person I knew who was being asked to interview at a college or university.  I don't really remember the interview, all I know is that once it was over, I was sold on WU and could not wait to go.  As a senior, I visited the campus, staying overnight and attending classes.  I met with Sue again during this visit and my devotion to WU was solidified.  I don't remember interacting with Sue while I was a student at Willamette, but just before graduation I was talked into applying for an Admission Counselor position and was hired - my relationship with Sue was only just beginning.  

I spent two years in the Admission office - together with the travel and application reviews, there were a lot of laughs and pranks. I will never forget the fabulous treats that Louise would make or the "hairy-licker" that we used to seal envelopes.  At the time, my mom was really into making vests - especially themed vests to wear for every holiday. The office got a kick out of them, so my mom made all the women in the office vests for Christmas one year, and for Jim Sumner, the lone male, a tie.   When my mom came to visit, it was agreed that everyone would wear their vest to work (even though it was not Christmas) - and Sue even had Hank wear one to show his appreciation.  

Sue served as a mentor to me as I made the transition from a Willamette coed to Willamette professional.  She was also someone I enjoyed spending social time with.  I particularly enjoyed the day trips to the beach to let Hank run around in the surf - I remember her telling me how she would drive out to the beach even in bad weather, just to watch the waves pound on the shore. And I always enjoyed sharing a meal with her at Goudy (watching, amazed, as she did the NY Times crossword in pen) or a cup of coffee at the Bistro. 

As others have mentioned in their blog entries, Sue was such a loyal and devoted friend.  I decided during my second year in Admissions to apply to join the Peace Corps.  Near my birthday in April 2000, I found out that I had been accepted and would be moving to Tanzania in East Africa. For my birthday that year, Sue and my mom conspired to make me a cake and surprise me at work.  What a surprise it was!  Sue decorated it as she imagined the wilds of Africa must look like - calling me the "African Queen".  Thinking about it still brings a smile to my face.  She also let me live with her for a couple of weeks when I had no housing just before I left for Peace Corps.  While I was gone she would write me letters or send emails - always filling me in on the gossip back at Willamette.  Hank and I shared a birthday - he always sent me a birthday card while I was away.  After having been gone for a couple of years, I came home for a short visit and Sue threw a BBQ so I could see a lot of familiar faces all in one place - what a treat that was after so much time away!  

When I got engaged Sue expressed her excitement over the phone.  When I got married, she and Teresa Hudkins came to Reno to attend the event.  When I was expecting my first child, I got a call from Sue one day who wanted to see how the pregnancy was doing.  She said she had been at the doctor and could hear through the wall a fetal monitor being used on an expectant mother and said she thought of me.  When I was on maternity leave, and she was undergoing treatment for the cancer, she and I spoke on the phone a few times - I always found comfort in her voice so many miles away.

It saddens me that my daughter Grace never got to meet Sue. However, I am grateful that Grace got to attend the memorial service with my husband and I, meeting so many wonderful people who have been influential in my life and important to Sue. I do know that I will have a wonderful time sharing my memories of Sue with Grace as she grows older.

In dedication to Sue I have made a couple of decisions:
1. I will continue to take notes in a journal and not a pad of paper;
2. From now on I will take my birthday off from work;
3. I will hold a "Kiss the Summer Good-bye" party each fall; and
4. I will live life to the fullest - always remembering to laugh a lot and out loud.

Thank you Sue for your friendship, laughter, and memories. 
I miss you dearly, 


Tara Graham
Student, Colleague and Friend